"The 7 Stages of Life"

The physical growth during our lives is simply a reflection of spiritual growth as the levels of ones soul enter the physical body ( see The Levels of SOUL page ). As we grow and mature through these stages, we transform and change . In each period of our lives a different set of parameters/ rules apply . It would be inconceivable that a 30 year old should behave with the same way a baby behaves ( although we all know some people who never grow up !!! ) . Hence we should look and learn from each of the 7 stages of life :-

1. Infancy & Early Childhood 0 to 7 years old

Learning to survive, relying totally on the people around, copying and emulating everyone . The survival of the first 7 years is based totally, in receiving energy from others by any means possible, crying, demanding, cheating and deception, or more subtly through loving and "being sweet" . Whatever technique is applied to receiving from the adult world, this leaves a lasting impression on ones soul and is carried forward into adult life, unless changed by reprogramming this behavioral pattern .

In this "infancy stage" a baby reacts naturally, when something hurts and pains the immediate reaction is to CRY . Crying clears the negative energy so much that the infant will almost immediately forget the pain after a good cry . Crying is not only a way of attracting attention, but an inner spiritual reaction to dissolving the negative hurt . The child will also immediately forgive the hurt or damage and will never harbour any resentment .

As adults, we forget this "normal" reaction that we were supposed to have learnt, and fight the pain by suppressing the hurt feelings . Until the hurt becomes too much to cope with and affects the health of the adult . It would therefore be an excellent idea if we would learn from this infant stage, and cry whenever there is hurt instead of "suppressing" the negative emotions and forgive and forget immediately, instead of harbouring resentment jealousy bitterness ... all the negative emotions that prevent us living as complete and wholesome adults with lovely purposeful lives .

2. Childhood 7 - 15 years old

The emergence of the personality and "copied" identity . During these years a person, still impressed and sensitive to emulate the people, the mannerisms and character of those they come into contact with, start to develop their own individualistic character .

This character is based entirely on the influences that the child comes into contact with . If the child is brought up by a nanny and the television, the parents must expect to see a confused child of our modern society . If the child is brought up by kind intelligent educated, thoughtful and loving parents, whom allow the child to be impressed by their etiquette and decency . The child will indeed copy the identity of those parents .

These years of education and transformation of character are the basis of the adult life . If in later years the adult has made mistakes and erred, it is because the foundation of ones character in these years was poor . Hence in reforming and changing ones nature in later years, imperatively one needs to look at the influences of these childhood years . De- brainwashing and reprogramming all the false copied characteristics one was impressed during childhood .

As Dr Jung says inherently no person is bad or evil, it is simply their soul and character has been tainted by bad influences . Everyone is intrinsically good, and has the potential to accomplish greatness and goodness with love, kindness and sincerity .

3. Adolescence, 15 until 21-26 years old

As explained on our page of THE SOUL , during these years the element of ones soul known as the RUACH - רוח ,enters ones physical life and spiritual soul. This RUACH is the power of speech, being used properly and thoughtfully . The power of speech allows a person to communicate ones inner thoughts from ones soul to another person . Thereby creating energy whether it has constructive( through intelligent, kind and loving words ) or destructive ( through lies, deceit and slander ) . This period of ones life allows the adolescent to explore these energies, both constructive and destructive .

The inner hormonal changes, peer groups, doubts and questions, help the adolescent refine and developer an individuality of character . Exploring life helps the young adult find ones own values and purpose in life . During this transition from childhood to adulthood, one may feel disorientated, especially, if the basis in childhood was incorrect . A level of insecurity comes with the changing adolescent, until one learns to have the confidence in oneself .

If indeed a person has had to undergo a complete life change in later years, the insecurity during that change is the insecurity of the "adolescent", until confidence in the self is gained by having the strength of character , to intrinsically know that all is now repaired within ones soul . This is especially true after a divorce, where the honest person questions ones life pathway and has many "adolescent" type doubts .

If the characteristics taught in the childhood stage and carried forward in this period were hateful, selfish and materialistic, the young adult will continue with this basis in life . Developing a ruthless and selfish character . It may take many years before something happens to awaken the person to the truth . Or the person may actually continue along this pathway and then straight into "old age" - a living death, without any consideration for anything as profound as a spiritual soul .

4. Adulthood - from adolescence until 30-45 years old

Adulthood is the creative period of ones life . This stage allows all the lessons and foundations of ones character that one has developed to then assume a responsible role in life .

Marriage and sexual intimacy for the purpose of creating loving energy and having children . One has transformed ones nature from a "taker" of energy, to a "creator" and "giver" of loving and supportive energy .

Ones career and purpose in life are formed in this period, and an identity label of whom you are is formed . This identity is based on your foundations of the earlier stages and guided by your values your set yourself during adolescence .

The achievements in ones life during this period identify whom the person is and are simply a reflection of the inner soul . If compared to a budding flower some radiate beauty, colour scent and aroma whilst some simply grow leaves and seeds . Nonetheless everyone has a purpose and identity , the fruits of ones earlier stages of life .

5. The Mid Life Crisis, from 26 - 45 years old until the end of life

This period is exceedingly important, and happens to everyone . Some people choose to ignore their feelings, suppressing any need for change, and settle themselves into directly into "old age" - a selfish life without use or creative purpose. However, most people, use these feelings sensibly to either make slight alterations to their lives or turn their useless lives "upside-down" starting afresh and building solid foundations .

During the mid-life crisis years, a person will have dissatisfaction with attainments in life, will have a growing awareness of physical decline and mortality . Experiencing "down-in-the-dumps" depressing moments, feeling that the life they wanted and dreamt of is not filled with the excitement, vitality and sense of loving creative purpose they had imagined as a child .

This stage of life will have the emphasis on a search for truth, meaning and purpose of life .

Having pursued with vigour - desires, wishes and fantasies of a teenager, by the mid life crisis years, the honest person will realize that these were the wishes and desires of an immature teenager . Now with the wisdom of experience, the gift of intuition, strength of an adult and with honesty, the individual confronts the innermost feelings . Knowing that getting-it-right will lead to a wholesome and "golden" period in life . Getting it wrong will lead to a premature living death .

Hence it becomes an emergency to CHANGE, at all costs, even at the expense of status in life ( if the job is depressing and draining then there is no other option than to quit the job or business), or at the expense of divorce ( if one realizes that the husband/wife is not suitable with the same spiritual or life aspirations ). These are some of the drastic measures we know people in mid-life experience and are perfectly normal .

Recognizing the uselessness and wastefulness of the earlier years, may lead some to fall into a depression or even worse try "escape tactics", and that includes "getting on" with life as usual by suppressing the feelings ones souls is trying to express . This occurs as one may feel the changes in ones life are simply too overwhelming to do, and other people may get hurt upset or offended, especially spouses whom do not comprehend this stage in life and refuse to be supportive or change . Preferring to have security in the status quo as to an improved spiritual and purposeful life .

However, after a period of sulking and feeling sorry for oneself . Analyzing the worst scenarios , the sensible person recognizes the need for transformation .

This time of transformation, is always accompanied by reminiscing the childhood and adolescent years . This is instinctively done by the soul, as a way to help guide the person, the mid-life crisis person feels that they went wrong somewhere, and will investigate honestly where that point in life occurred, by "going back" in time .

The root cause for not having a perfect and wholesome life is that the foundations laid were of poor quality . By uprooting those bad foundations and laying new ones, based on spiritual, purposeful, loving and creative values, the person transforms the inherent "childhood" and "adolescent" stages that were engrained, (and in some cases brainwashed) by misinformed and misguided parents . One then learns to be ones own parent , laying foundations based on ones own personal experiences and mistakes .

When a movie director makes a film , the director has a very clear end vision fixed in their head . The director will use his/her experience insights and knowledge to keep going over the same scene until its 100% correct . Similarly the honest adult in mid-life crisis will keep on making the corrections until the perfect "end vision" is fulfilled . However, painful and boring it maybe to keep going over the same scene, the person realizes that unless it is perfect, they will NOT be able to live with the uncomfortable feelings of "uselessness of life" .

6. The Golden Age, from mid life crisis years until old age

This period is ONLY applicable to those people whom have worked on themselves during the mid-life crisis years, refining their character with spiritual meaning of life . This person now has a life of creative purpose based on kindness, love and spiritual understanding .

The person radiates and exudes life and vitality . It is said that many successful 40 year olds look younger that some "Old aged" 20 year olds . Having attained the goal of realigning their principles ideals and goals in life , they are given an amazing new lease of life . Having discarded all the draining situations out of their lives , they are only left with good friends of similar purposeful lives .

In this GOLDEN period, comes a maturity and knowledge that all of life is interrelated in a cycle of life and loving energy . There is no shortage nor scarcity of love . As love is created by ones thoughts and actions . Abundance runs freely in ones life . One becomes and exudes a contentment with whatever one has, one no longer forces life to happen . A serenity of peacefulness and patience reign .

As the person radiates these feelings, goodness and happiness are now attracted to the person, instead of running away from the person who runs after them .

To the person who has been blessed with the stage of "GOLDEN AGE", then the next stage of "old age" may only last a few weeks or even a few hours to a truly righteous person, who have fulfilled lives to the day they die, (as we know with many special people such as Rabbi Segal who gave advice and help to people a few hours before he died ) .

7. Old age, possibly from 30 years old on

This period of "old age" is the acceptance that ones productive creative years have ended . That the person no longer has anything to offer of any purpose to other people .

The confrontation of eventual death, together with the fact that the person has no spiritual values, they become more materialistic and selfish, with fears of lack that they will not have enough money in later years . They become ruthless and arrogantly selfish, in complete atheistic denial that there is a GOD or any form of belief on life-after-death .

( And I must add that "being religious" of any faith, going to prayers and performing traditional religious acts, does not necessarily mean that the person has spiritual loving thoughts, as we all know some of the so called religious leaders are the most hateful and non-spiritual people in the world ) .

These people survive life, by using the power of creative speech to lie and destroy other peoples lives . As they intrinsically "know" their lives are lost and wasted, so ruthlessly they desire to destroy as many good people along with them .

The sincerely good people of the "GOLDEN AGE" group, sense this and see through these type of people, keeping a distance . Hence we find in life at a certain age after the "mid life" crisis years , we find groups of people whom have polarized themselves into constructive creative people with a life energy and vitality of the "GOLDEN AGE" and another group of the "OLD AGE "

This is much in the same way as we explained on the two types of people in the world the "honest group" and the "deceitful group" on our page of spirit & guidance .

Sadly for those whom have resigned themselves not to change in their mid-life crisis, they have chosen by their freewill to be selfish and not to give to others, they have committed spiritual suicide on themselves . They disconnect with GOD and the creative life energy, and hence survive by stealing life energy from other people, which after a time all the intrinsically good people feel a draining around these people . So they dread the fear of death and eventually leave this world with no idea or preparation spiritually of what awaits . Once they have died , they are soon forgotten, as they have left nothing of any purpose or use in their selfish lives .

Although old age can start at 30, for women this can occur earlier, in particular those women who choose not to have, they lack any wish or desire to want children . Similarly men who have operations to prevent them having children, they have disconnected with the creative life energy . They have brought selfish "old age" upon themselves . These people have flaunted with GODs' gift of life energy and committed spiritual suicide, and thereby physical death in preventing themselves to be a receptacle of life, part of the creation of life, and for purely selfish sexual reasons . Hence women and men whom are in relationships with a selfish partner who does NOT want children are living with death, my suggestion is to change ones spouses attitude or leave immediately .

CHANGE CAN OCCUR AT ANYTIME

Now that we understand that life has 7 stages, we shall now introduce the idea of 5 stages of change . Change can occur during ANY stage of life, at anytime, can take a year or 10 years, (there is no time limit set on change) . Through events beyond ones control, such as tragedies or being "taken along" with parental or spouses changes that occur during their lives.

Every event has the potential to affect our lives in order to wake a person up spiritually. As explained on the page of soul & belief , the moment of death experience - the passing / death of a loved one usually acts as catalyst to make a person reflect on their lives.

Nonetheless the person usually goes through a reflective period in their lives during the "mid-life crisis" years . At that stage on life they can reflect clearly and with experiences of life , to make the right corrections to change life into a fulfilling and purposeful life .