"Closure" אל תתחבר עם רשעים

How to have "closure" ... "לגמוֹר"

The purpose of learning how to have "closure" from certain situations and people, is in order that we learn how to take control of our thoughts and actions. Most people for 90% of the time are living "other peoples" lives . We are all doing things that either other people expect us to do, force us to do, or if we are in a state of "neutral", open to any kind of influence and "brainwashing", then we are living life like an aimlessly wandering sheep. Most people for only 60 mins every day actually have control of their mind and thoughts. The most successful creative, individualistic, good people, retain focus of their mind and thoughts for all the time they are awake.

The lesson to learn "closure" is to take control of ones soul, that is to learn to have complete control over ones mind and thoughts. Only allowing in thoughts and influences that will help to create a purposeful loving life in completing the purpose ones soul came to earth.

All sensitive souls and most people are continually losing focus of their lives and getting side-tracked by loss through "transference", that is they are continually interacting with people who are "stealing" their energy, pulling on their souls to "get carried along" with someone else's wishes and desires, hence this causes "blockages" and blocks success by transference in their lives.

Until it comes - that moment in a persons life ( usually "mid-life crisis" as discussed on the "stages of change" page) when one wakes up and recognizes that one has been living "other peoples" lives and fulfilling their wishes. At this time one usually needs to learn "CLOSURE" from all the negatively draining influences of their past, in order to take control and sort out ones own life, to enable a successful transformation of ones character.

By learning control of ones mind, learning the way ones body and soul is constantly interacting, transferring and "draining" energy from ones soul this will enable a person to have closure and clearance of the negative influences, "other peoples baggage" and even the past mistakes from this lifetime and previous lifetimes.

After having closure, a spiritual release of negative emotions and "other peoples trash", will happen automatically. One will then start to LIVE a vibrant lively, loving, creative life of ones own personal destiny of ones soul. Instead of being drained by collective mistakes of other people. This page of "CLOSURE" is probably the most important first step in clearing the past and is taken entirely from Sefer HaNefesh - ספר הנפש and Sefer Shinuyim - Book of Change .

"Closure"

On this page we shall explain the following points:

1. The 3 types of people : the good, bad and "in-between" easily influenced, explaining why we attract into our lives difficult people and abusively draining situations, and conversely show how we use this same method to attract in good situations.

2. The physical senses: sight, smell, touch, taste, hear, speech and how to have complete "closure" physically.

3. The 14 physical entry and exit points of "spiritual energy" into and out of ones body and soul, being aware of the specific energies of each of these places in ones body enables and empowers a person to control the "leakages" and draining, hence using ones physical body to gain the first step in a spiritual closure.

4. Learning to coordinate and "THINK" specific thoughts of "closure" in ones mind, in order to complete the closure of emotional attachments to the draining situation, simultaneously to making the physical gestures of "closure".

5. The Final act of "closure" as taught from King Solomon in Proverbs and explained in Sefer Shinuyim ("the book of changes").

1. The 3 groups of people

"The Good"

This group of people have learnt to be in control of their mind and thoughts, they interact, transfer energy and create loving energy with other good people. They have a motivation of selfless service and desire to make this world a better place.

Their only desire is to do good, be kind, loving, compassionate and they exude an energy that influences others to be good by example. They NEVER force their opinions upon anyone. A true good spiritual leader radiates a glow of loving kindness and happiness that impresses other people to want to emulate their kind and soft spoken nature.

"The Bad"

This group of people are rotten and evil, their souls have been corrupted and their intentions are focused to destroy as many peoples lives as possible. They use force, aggression, anger, money, sex and other forms of intimidation to influence others.

They force themselves and their attitudes upon others, they could even be "religious" rabbis, "brainwashed" fanatics, clics, cults and groups of people that only look after "their own kind". Spiritually no-one has the right to interfere with anyone else's life, especially with silly man-made laws which have nothing to do with the spirituality of true service and belief in GOD.

This "bad" group may use money, the love of money and wealth to corrupt peoples lives, and even think that they "own" other peoples lives forcing them to become corrupt too! For example, in the legal profession today, which is full of deceit and lies, in court they lie regularly, to protect their clients. As everyone knows in every legal debate there are 3 sides to every case, the 2 peoples sides and the truth! Many good, idealistic young lawyers are often corrupted by their piers and employers to lie, falling into the trap of legitimizing their lies and deceit!

In our generation, the "bad" group regularly use emotional fears of not being "good enough" and use the "sexual desire" of lust to influence people, into doing things or buying things they do not need to make their lives any better, or simply encouraging wasteful acts of self destruction.

Inherently this group of "bad" people focus their thoughts on stealing energy from the next group of "non thinking" and "in-between" people, who are easily influenced.

The "in-between" & easily influenced

The "in-between" group, the "easily influenced" who oscillate from being really good to bad. Depending on where they are and what they are doing, and with whom they are connected with, will influence their mind and actions to either be good or bad. They are simply not in control of what they allow into their mind and soul, and are easily led astray like aimlessly wandering sheep.

This page is written for the "in between" group. Once a person becomes aware of how they are losing so much of their souls energy by "transference", in that they "allow in" the "trash" into their mind in exchange for the good energy of their soul, once they recognize the sources of draining energy, they will find it easy to have "closure".

Learning control and being careful of the minds interactions of thought energy will inevitably transform the person into a really good individual person with a purposeful loving, happy and creative constructive life, of ones own independent destiny, hence will stop one from being carried along with "other peoples" lives.

Who are your friends ?

כמים הפנים לפנים...כן לב האדם לאדם

A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses. [Proverbs 27:19]

DON'T RUN WITH THE WRONG CROWD. Proverbs Chapter 27 Verse 19 "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses."

As in water (that means as in a mirror) a face reflects a face (you see your own face in the water) so the heart of man to man. In other words, just as we see ourselves in the water, we associate with people whose hearts and attitudes and spirits reflect our own. That's just another way of saying, birds of a feather flock together. Whoever is in your life, is there as a reflection of you and your character.

If one has untrustworthy and dishonest friends or acquaintances, this reflects something about oneself ! They are there as reflections of ones inner character. Once a person changes then those difficult people or abusively draining situations will disappear.

Whatever "faults" you find in others

are simply a reflection of YOUR faults !

במום שאתה פוסל בחברך ... אתה פוסל בה

"The thing one criticizes and finds fault in others, is the exact thing one needs to correct oneself" (Talmud Kiddushin)

Usually those people who are always complaining about their lives and criticizing other people are the ones with the worst characters. As we learnt on the "THANK YOU" page, there are indicative signs indicating a "bad persons" life and a "complaining character", just like the generation of complaining jews forced to wander in circles for 40 years in the wilderness for being so ungrateful to GOD and Moshe.

It is always remarkable that the most creative, sincere, kind, good and honest people always get falsely criticized and accused by "empty" noise making people ! And yet these good people will never reply to any criticism, as they know that the people criticizing and trying to destructively negate their goodness are simply reflecting all the qualities wrong with themselves.

Very often during divorces, scandals or arguments over money, there will always be one side who lies and the other side who keeps quiet, and does not stoop to even answer the false allegations. As everyone knows the saying from the Talmud "Empty vessels makes most noise" and "The thing one criticizes and finds fault in others, is the exact thing one needs to correct oneself".

The people making the false allegations are simply reflecting their own bad character. But are trying to accuse the other side in an attempt to divert the energy from themselves by "giving away" their bad character by "transference" to the innocent and good. The lesson in "closure" and refusal to loose ones soul identity and energy by "transference", will ensure one succeeds to retain ones integrity, honesty, and goodness of ones soul even when falsely accused by rotten people.

As we shall learn on this page, and on "Life of Compassion" one will develope a character, not to criticize other people. There is no need to talk about, slander or criticize anyone destructively, this is not the purpose of your life or your soul. You are here in this world to perfect your soul and your own character.

By "getting involved" and finding faults in others, only wastes and diverts ones souls energy, which creates more sadness, blocks and Depression. "Getting involved" causes blockages in ones life, and only leads to a bad connections with the wrong sort of people, creating links which causes continual "loss by transference".

Why do other people disturb and bother you ?

There are 3 reasons why a person is "disturbed", annoyed and agitated by other people:-

Firstly, these people are reflecting something that is wrong with you. Therefore you are seeing yourself in them and this disturbs you ! The solution is simple, identify to yourself the real reason why they disturb you and how this reflects your character, then CHANGE YOURSELF. Once YOU change, they will stop bothering you and the situation will automatically go away and will stop bothering you.

Secondly, in acts of loss by "transference" energy, you maybe living someone else's life, because of your continual "open" interaction of your mind and soul to their influences, this bothers you so much, because you feel someone else is continually living your life and even "stealing" your life and destiny, and hence you feel you don't have a "life of your own".

The solution is simply to learn to cancel out loss by "transference", protect oneself from being "open" to draining influences and stop "getting involved" in other peoples business and lives that have nothing to do with you, your destiny or your life. (And then learn "closure" in ones mind, soul, and stop the leakages of your good spiritual energy from the 14 spiritual sensitive points in your body, as we teach later on this page).

By understanding and acknowledging that "its their problem", "its someone else's life" and has nothing to do with you, helps one disconnect "mentally" with these wrong associations and draining links which are blocking your life.

Thirdly, a person is disturbed and irritated because someone has told them the truth of the flaws in their character. Usually, when people see others who are arrogant and "wrong" they don't bother interacting or wasting anytime or effort on arguing with them, they simply ignore and have closure from such "draining" type of people.

Nontheless from time to time, it becomes necessary to actually verbalize to the indignant and arrogant person their "bad" attitude. They immediately resent this as no-one has ever stood up to these "bullies", and they then proceed with a lifelong campaign of hate, destruction and even violence to try and destroy the good persons life.

On this page we shall explain the lessons of "closure", that it is simply not worth the wasted effort to "get involved" with such horrible people. On the page of Protection and Sensitive souls we explain how to avoid these people and never to allow them to disturb you peace of mind, your inner peace in your soul or your LOVE of GOD which brings you peace, tranquility and happiness in your life that these lesser "bad" people have become jealous of your good soul and spiritual good fortune.

אל תתחבר עם רשעים ואל תקנה בעוֹשי עולה

"Don't Connect with Wicked People and Don't be Jealous of Cheats and Liars"

One major reason why we stay attached in our mind and thoughts is because of our negative emotions of hatred, bitterness, resentment and jealousy. The ideal "closure" is to learn to "let go" of the situation and take the "i don't care attitude", neither love nor hate, the simple " it doesn't bother me" attitude, with no emotional energy whatsoever, neither love nor hate, always works for closure !!!

Every connection a person has in this life is a reflection of their own character, if one feels uneasy inside and not at peace with oneself with the liaisons one has, then this is a sign one needs to learn to CHANGE oneself.

2. The physical senses: sight, smell, touch, taste, hear, speech, and how to have complete "closure" physically.

As we explained on the "Health & Diet" page, the physical body is simply a reflection of ones soul. By understanding the physical body we can explain the mind and soul. We introduce the concept of "closure" from a purely physical understanding before we explain in section 3 the interaction and concepts of physical & spiritual closure.

Our physical body is constantly interacting and transferring energy with everything and everyone. We have senses that receive the energy and either feel energised or drained.

If we like and enjoy the energy we send a subconscious message to our mind and soul to stay "OPEN" to continue receiving such energies. However, if we dislike or feel drained by such energies we send a message to be "CLOSED" to such energies.

From the simplified chart above, one will have more energy in gaining closure if one VERBALSISES displeasure and a need for closure. For example, if dislikes a food one eats and says "UGH - this is disgusting!" a stronger message is received to ones mind and soul for closure. If one is physically sick from that food, (especially children), then one will never eat that food again !

Similarly, if one enters someone's house which is smelly, even if one holds ones nose and gets out quickly, the impression made on ones mind is NEVER to go back ! Likewise if one dislikes the way someone looks, or sees something disgusting, one will always never make eye-contact with that person or ugliness. This is human nature, only to be open to something that pleases the mind. (As we have explained in the "brainwashing cycle" page). These are all instincts which our physical body learns at a young age, however, some emotions, situations that need to have closure, especially if one has abusive parents, these remain engrained in ones mind, until they are dealt with in a "minds clearance" and spiritual closure, usually much later on in life, during a contemplatative mid-life crisis!

3. The physical entry and exit points of "Spiritual Energy" into and out of ones body and soul.

Our physical body has 14 specific and exceedingly sensitive parts that need the utmost of care and protection in order to ensure good physical health and spiritual strength. These 14 points are points of entry and exit of both physical and spiritual energies from our body.

Naturally all parts of our body are open and sensitive, all over our skin there are millions of small holes/pores that allow a flow of interaction and transference of energy with the physical and spiritual world. The country, city, house and room where our physical body is has an affect and interacts energies with our soul. This does so by receiving and emitting energy from our soul through these 14 sensitive points.

These main entry and exit points are the 14 "super sensitive" points that need our utmost attention . They also continually need our mind and thoughts to control the energy flow at these crucial points, otherwise we will find ourselves being "open" and "drained" inexplicably. By focusing and mastering the flow of energy at these 14 points, we will find ourselves strengthened and considerably more in "control" of our mind, spirit soul and then able to follow our own "destined pathway" of spiritual fulfillment, instead of being drained by other freeloaders who are stealing our souls energy from these points.

The 14 "super sensitive" spiritual and physical "entry and exit" points.

1. Right Eye 3. Right Ear 5. Right Nostril 7. Mouth 8. "Belly Button" 9. Sexual Organ 11. Right Hand 13. Right Foot

2. Left Eye 4. Left Ear 6. Left Nostril     10. Anus 12. Left Hand 14. Left Foot

In this section we shall explain how to be open and closed at each of these 14 spiritually sensitive points. In the book Sefer HaNefesh "The book of the Soul" by Reb Shem Tov Ibn Yosef Falaq'ira, he explains that most people act instinctively to have "Closure" at these spiritually sensitive points just like a child. However, as a person grows and develope's a higher level of spiritual awareness and sensitivity it now becomes necessary to THINK before putting into action a "CLOSURE" at these 14 specific points.

The Right and the Left

The RIGHT hand side of our physical body reflects LOGIC, FACTS and ACTUAL PHYSICAL REALITY.

The LEFT hand side of our physical body reflects EMOTIONS, MIND, THOUGHT, DESIRES and the FUTURE which we would like to happen.

These facts are important to know when understanding the following 14 spiritually sensitive points in our body. We also suggest that as you read the explanations below you try doing some physical exercises yourself, like standing on your right foot and then stand on your left foot, clenching your right fist and then clenching your left fist and then clench both fists, close the right nostril close the left nostril and then close both nostrils , etc., and actually feel the difference yourself. As we shall explain in the separate paragraphs below. The purpose of explaining these very important "closure" techniques is so that a person rises their spiritual awareness that ones body is a reflection of ones soul, and must therefore be treated and guarded with dignity and respect.

1. Right Eye & 2. Left Eye

The eyes are the windows into your soul, everything your eyes see makes an impression upon your soul. Most images carry very little energy, the images that carry the most energy of those images that have emotions and emotional energy of love or hate attached to them.

CLOSURE :- Keeping ones eyes closed ! However that is not always practical ! The best CLOSURE technique with ones eyes is to always LOOK DOWN , NEVER MAKE EYE CONTACT and keep ones eyelids as closed as possible so that one views with as little eye energy as possible.

OPEN:- Opening ones eyes WIDE and making EYE CONTACT without blinking and with a smiling and "open" face sends a maximum energy of openness. When one wants to convey an open energy with ones eyes, one does not even need to speak, if and ONLY IF one is THINKING happy, positive and loving thoughts. As one is happy within ones soul this is emitted in the energy and glow in ones eyes.

It is ofcourse much easier for spiritually enlightened people with light coloured eyes - that is green and blue eyes to emit a strong soulful energy with their eyes as they are usually much more open characters than people with dark brown or black eyes - as explained on our page on Health & Diet.

The strongest contact and connection a person can make without touching another person is through EYE CONTACT. So learn to control the images one sees and the energy of ones soul that one emits by learning to control one eyes and eyelids. In the table below we give a few examples of the movement of ones eyes and the energy and signal that it emits to other people.

	An open wide stare, indicates complete openness and 100% concentration of mind and thoughts.
	A continual slow blinking, indicates a lack of interest and almost about to fall asleep !
	A wink with the right eye, indicates the person is closing the right eye of logic and leaving open the left eye of emotions . A romantic sign of love, friendship and emotional attachment.
	A very fast blinking eye, indicates either a silly and jovial nature or someone who wants to have closure from a situation, doesn't like what they see and keeps checking quickly to see if the image has gone away!
	Only blinking occasionally yet a quick blink, indicates full concentration on a subject, the occasional quick blink indicates a pause in absorbing and thinking about the image, but not wanting to loose focus.
	A stare with a long blink, indicates a person who is in control with their mind and thoughts, they are bored and unhappy with what they see, their eyes give the impression they are thinking of something else, somewhere else in their mind, the long blink shows disapproval at the image and a wish it would go away!

The best way to THINK and connect spiritually -

CLOSE ONES EYES

The physical eyes connect our soul to the physical world through the images it sees. For example if we look at the News items, especially tragic news which makes us feel open and emotional, we actually feel as if we are there. Hence the reason why so many people naturally and instinctively CLOSE THEIR EYES, when they need to concentrate their thoughts.

For people who suffer from lack of concentration it has an unbelievable affect if they CLOSE THEIR EYES for 3 MINUTES. Try it now and see, STOP everything you are doing and close your eyes even for 10 seconds whilst sitting in front of the computer ! wow ! see and feel the difference ! When one reopens ones eyes, automatically one feels recharged, more alert and alive.

In the same way a person closes their eyes to go to sleep for a recharge or energy, many people find a similar recharge of their souls energy, if they close their eyes for 5 mins during the daytime. This helps to settle and calm ones mind, thoughts and soul, ensuring that one can think and remain focused on ones purpose in life and not "get involved" with other peoples business and interaction of draining energies.

It is well accepted that when one prays with ones eyes closed it has a very strong affect, as this closes out the physical world and helps one to connect spiritually. Likewise public speakers and musicians often close their eyes to concentrate their full soulful energy, helping them to remain focused and undisturbed by other peoples energies in the audience. The reason why so many children and people are nervous in front of large audiences is they sense and are "open" to some peoples critical and destructive energies who are willing them to fail, the solution is simple - no eye contact, and be as "closed" as possible, even close ones eyes if one can.

It is written that on a sunny day, a person feels stronger, this is because the sunshine is bright and one needs to close ones eyelids and squint to see, this has the affect of limiting the energy of ones soul being emitted hence a person feels more "closed". Whereas in the dark or at nighttime when a person needs to open ones eyes wider to see, then a person is emitting more soulful energy and is more "open" spiritually.

3. Right Ear & 4. Left Ear

Ones EARS are always open. It takes a special action with ones hands and fingers to CLOSE ones ears to stop interacting, emitting and receiving energy. Listening to very loud noises disturbs and unsettles the peace and serenity of ones soul, hearing abuse, gossip, slander, deceit and lies all have an unsettling and disturbing affect on ones soul. The only way to BLOCK and be "closed" to noises, peoples abusive words and speech is to cover ones ears with ones hands, or use ones fingers to close the little flap in front of ones ear hole.

Although seemingly the ear does not look like it emits any energy, it is continually receiving every single noise wherever we are, it is constantly connected with ones soul with a special sensitivity to EVERYTHING one hears and occurs wherever one is situated. It has the power to change ones mood from bad to good and conversely according to the sounds one hears at each moment.

Hence the tradition of singing when praying (this was specially true in the 1st and 2nd temples when the Levites sung every psalm and prayer) as the melodic songs have a greater affect on ones soul. Similarly as we explain on the chapter of Happiness, the power of singing and even humming to oneself has a positive affect to cancel out any depression and negative emotions.

When one needs 100% "closure" from external influences always cover ones ears and hum a tune keeping ones mouth closed, ( if one can't cover ones ears then at least hum a tune!). This has the effect of resonating ones own soul and magnifying ones own good energy over the negative outside influences that one can hear. Most young children instinctively do this, when they don't want to listen to anyone - they cover their ears and hum and tune ! Try this and you will feel a self confidence and strength of ones soul over and above the external noises!

This method of "closure" was introduced again in jewish life in the time of the Spanish persecution of Sefardic jews in 1492 and in Chassidic communities of Poland and Russia during 1800's & 1900's, especially by Lubavitch Rebbes and the most Famous Rebbe Nachman of Breslov. During the noisy pogroms, he always covered his ears and hummed a song, this enabled him to remain spiritually closed to any fears and hatred, hence protecting his soul. (as we explain on the Protection chapter).

"Cover ones ears and let

the Angels hear ones prayers"

When one closes ones ears, the strength of ones soul is now contained, there are no leakages! Try whispering, talking or humming a tune when one has ones fingers closing ones ear holes, one feels the full strength of ones voice and even feels, as though spiritually ones angels are listening ! This is because, ones soul is "closed" to the outside physical world, and therefore open spiritually. Try praying whilst closing and covering ones ears, say a few words in prayer and feel the difference.

5. Right Nostril & 6. Left Nostril

The breath of life and air that we need to survive in this world enters and exits our physical body through our nose, which is constantly OPEN. Only when the air is so contaminated. polluted or smelly then we take our fingers to "pinch" our nose close. Otherwise it remains open.

According to Kabbala the RUACH "Spirit of Life", our souls energy and that energy of spirit souls that attach themselves to our souls enters through the breath of life. Therefore, if one ever feels overwhelmed by negative feelings or discomfort, even spiritual "panic" attacks, then simply TAKE DEEP BREATHES through ones nose.

In fact a person should daily take deep breathes during the day, this helps to exhale any negative or stressful emotions and always helps to return a state of "peace of mind" and calmness to ones soul. Try it now take 3 deep breathes through ones nose and feel the difference, breathe in all the way and then hold the breathe and then let go of all the negative feelings. This deep breathing acts to cleanse and invigourate the body, exhaling the negative and stale air from ones lungs and body. Try deep breathing before one goes to sleep, this will aid a peaceful nights sleep and as one wakes up in the morning to invigourate the body.

If one finds it difficult to take deep breathes or one has blocked nose, this is a physical sign that one needs to learn to "unblock" ones emotions within ones spirit soul. The more stressed a person is, the more difficult it is to take deep breathes, so take it slowly at first and one will feel better the more one learns to breathe deeply, restoring calmness to ones body and soul. Once a person can take deep breaths easily reflects they have reached a state of peace within their soul, and no longer hold onto any stress or negative emotions !

7. Mouth

In this section teaching spiritual "closure", the mouth is the most important part of ones physical body that distinguishes us from animals. The power of speech, the self expression of our individuality of each persons soul. Our ability to control our speech, the words we say, the way we say them and the loudness, quietness and tone of our speech identifies the mood and spiritual energy of our soul.

A very powerful person often feels no need to shout, in fact the more truly powerful spiritual person often speaks soft-spoken and very quietly, with a tremendous dignity and respect of value of every word they say. Those people who shout and are loud often carry no true energy, so no one really listens to them as their words have no energy from their soul, as they are weak spiritually. (We explained on the page of spirit & guidance the power of ones soul and speech reflects ones soul, ones ability to connect to ones guardian angels and have ones prayers answered).

Sefer Shinuyim, "the Book of Changes", in the introduction explains the hebrew word for TEETH and CHANGE comes from the same word שן, the importance of this is to make a person aware, if a person really wants to change then they should CHANGE THE WAY THEY SPEAK.

Since the energy of ones soul enters and exits through ones mouth in the form of speech, if a person wishes to be 100% closed with ones mouth then one should keep ones mouth closed, and clench ones mouth firmly closed by clenching ones teeth together. The more firmly one holds, keeps and uses all the facial muscles to keep ones mouth closed, indicates to your body and soul that you want "closure" and no spiritual or physical draining will now occur through your mouth.

In fact if you are sitting in the peace and quiet on your own, try closing your mouth and using all your facial muscles to keep your teeth firmly closed, one actually feels the strength of closure. It really works!

8. Belly Button

This is the knot in ones skin that was originally the umbilical cord, the connection between an unborn baby and the mother in the womb. This point is the source of nourishment of energy that we all received in our mothers womb. At birth the cord is cut and tied to become the "belly button". This area is considered spiritually to always be a source of energy entering and leaving ones body and soul.

CLOSURE:- usually this area is clothed and covered, if one places ones hand over ones "belly button" or folds ones arms then this sensitive point becomes closed, and ones spiritual soul is closed and is not being drained at this point. (Children when they feel ill, tired or weak instinctively cover their "belly button", having come recently from the womb they remember and recognize that the source of their souls energy exits and enters in this place).

It should be noted that in today's "modern fashion", some women expose their "belly button", this is actually exposing their soul to be open to be drained of any positive energy by any negative energy, especially energy of "sexual desire" from men who are not giving them energy but actually taking energy from these women - no wonder some women feel so drained, tired and have headaches - their souls energy is being drained from them ! Simple solution is ONLY expose ones belly button to ones soulmate when making LOVE and no one else !

9. Sexual Organ

Naturally this is different for the male and female. However both have the same values in common, in that they are both "opened" by an emotional sexual arousal. This is partly due to the natural, normal and basic "animal instinct" of a male being attracted to and desiring a female, and a female desiring to be loved and made wholesome by a male. This is also due to a spiritual connection of two people "connecting" and "energising" each other as they both have what the other is lacking. The need to connect sexually in order to make each other whole, as they are indeed 2 halves of a whole is perfectly normal and natural, as they connect sexually both are opening themselves to each others soul, and allowing a creative transfer of loving soulful energy.

However, if they are not each others "soulmates", then this sexual union allows one to take from the other persons life, soul and destiny, this is especially common with "loose" women who "sleep around" taking energy from different men, and end up being totally confused having lost their original identity, as their soul is now a mixture of several competing souls energies, as they have taken a soulful "identity" from the men they have been with, this is also true with men taking confusing womens energy, hence men have confusion over their true soulmate too.

We shall explain the concept of sexual motivational energy at length on the page of Motivation, that the energy of life on earth is motivated by love and a desire to be part of creation, the "driving" energy and force of motivation for people to live in this world is a desire to LOVE and be LOVE, which creates a life giving energy. This energy is instilled in most people, through the emotions and "sexual" feelings/arousal of sexual energy.

The sexual organ is directly influenced by the visions one sees with ones eyes, hence physical and spiritual "CLOSURE" of ones "sexual organ" means controlling ones EYES and the images it sees, together with controlling ones THOUGHTS not to be aroused sexually by anyone other than ones soulmate. That is to send a clear message to ones mind - that one only wants to be aroused be ones soulmate when making love and NO ONE ELSE.

If a person has become aroused sexually, then they have allowed their soul to be influenced and an exchange of energy has taken place, as this arousal energy is "thought energy" it is in the same group as loss by "Transference". If a man or woman has aroused another person then part of their souls energy is taken by that person they have aroused.

If this "thought" energy is transferred into a lewd act of wasted sexual energy, and the object of "fantasy" was not "closed" or aware that they were arousing other people sexually then they will find themselves inexplicably drained or spiritually "attacked" by such energies.

We explain the importance of this fully on the Protection page, as the main loss of energy from a persons soul, especially a loss by "Transference is made when a person is "open" through sexual arousal of their sexual organ.

The simple solution is to remain as focused and closed as possible, being 100% careful of the images a person sees which will ensure that a person is not "opened" up by sexual desires. When a person realises that they "waste" so much of their souls energy through acts of "wasted" sexual arousal then a person guards this facet even more preciously, and in turn one has the positive energy to have wholesome and regular sexual love-making with ones husband/wife.

If one is not in a relationship, then onessoul becomes ready when one stops wasting sexual energy from the soul through "acts" of waste, its a simple formula, ones soul responds to ones actions, when a person stop wasting the souls life energy, a block is taken away and the life energy of ones destiny that is contained within a persons soul has the energy and focus to find ones loving perfect soulmate.

10. Anus

The Anus is the place where only faeces is excreted. The most vile, disgusting, smelley and poisonous excrement the body can produce exits the body here. It is vital to ones health to keep this "anus" clean by washing regularly. The anus is naturally kept 100% closed except at this moment when waste energy exits.

There is a very important point that, just after one has been to the toilet, and cleared oneself of this negative waste and sewage. Ones body is actually at a state of its purest and holiest spiritually.

After one has got rid of this poisonous waste, usually in the morning after a good nights sleep, one feels very relieved and very "clear- headed", this is because spiritually ones soul feels clear and pure, having rid itself of this negative waste. This is indeed the ideal time to pray and think spiritually, it is said in teh talmud Bava Metzia that the greater the person is spiritually the longer they wait to have breakfast in the morning, as their body feels most spiritual and sensitive after an evacuation of the bowels, before starts eating in the morning and one puts food into the digestive system.

11. Right Hand & 12. Left Hand

Please see our "Palmistry" page for an introduction and explanation of the spiritual strength, power, knowledge and how the destiny of our souls journey in this physical life is contained within the lines on ones hand.

CLOSURE of ones hand, and a refusal to allow any energy to be wasted or stolen from ones soul is simply in keeping a firmly closed clenched fist. As ones hands are also exposed in touching, it is imperative that one always washes ones hands to keep them clean with a sense of respect and purity for ones soul. When a person washes and cleanses ones hands it is actually cleansing and washing ones soul.

Position of Hands to be "Focused and Closed"

This is the best way for Prayers, Spiritual Learning, be able to focus ones thoughts and energies, and being 100% closed to outside influences. As this contains ones energies of ones soul for oneself, not allowing any space for any negative energy.

As we have learnt that our hands our the external connection between the physical world and our spiritual soul, hence by closing ones fists, closes ones soul. Or clasping both hands together also closes ones soul to bad influences. (For those who understand the Aramaic Gemorra Talmud , please see the source of the Segula of being closed to bad influences with ones hands on this special web page . )

Praying Hands

Praying with hands as in this picture above was stopped in Europe in the 15th Century after the christian crusaders had murdered jewish communities on their way to the Holy Land . The European Rabbis felt that praying with hands as in picture above would be copying the accepted "christian" way of prayers. Nontheless the oriential and sefardic communities of the muslem / arab countries continued to pray with their hands.

"Talking with ones hands"

When a person talks, the "body language" as one speaks indicates to the listening person, the degree of sincerity and soulful power of emotion of their words. "Talking with ones hands" indicates to the listener that one is emotional, honest and wants to let the other person "feel" the power of the words in their soul.

Try some exercise talking to yourself whilst making movements with your hands, showing the palms of your hands, turning them sideways, upside down, and even try talking with a clenched fist. You will see for yourself that each movement of ones hands coupled with ones speech has its own specific meaning. As one becomes more spiritually aware of the power of ones soul within ones hands, one will learn that one can communicate ideas and soulful thoughts to others using the movement of ones hands.

The best way to convey that one is CLOSED is to talk with a CLENCHED CLOSED FIST. The best way to convey that one is OPEN is to talk with an OPEN hand , SHOWING THE PALMS of ones hand.

13. Right Foot & 14. Left Foot

The foundation and connection of our physical body to the physical earth is through our feet.

"חי נושא את עצמו"

"A living person carries itself" Talmud Shabbos 94a ( see דרשה סוּגיא)

Everyone is aware that a dead person weighs more than a live person. The Talmud, Rashi and the Maharsha, explain that the soul of a person within the physical body lifts the body from the earth. A depressed persons body, who has disconnected themselves spiritually from any emotions of LOVE, happiness or belief in GOD, feels heavier than a happy contented and spiritually enlightened person.

A sensitive person always has an inner feeling when they simply "know" and "feel" that everything is going to be fine, this feeling is based on the fact that they feel their soul within their body lifting and energising their body into action with a "lightness" that only comes when a person is connected spiritually.

This feeling is felt most signifciantly in ones feet, the way and manner a person walks indicates the energy of ones soul in ones physical body. If one ever steps carefully over a fragile floor, one knows that one cannot put ones full weight or connection with the floor, and yet when one walks or even runs in to countryside in a field or in the garden one firmly and solidly connects one feet with the ground below. The floor we walk on with our feet directly relates to the energy our feet connects with the earth. The more solid we are connected the stronger our physical and spiritual connection our soul in making to this place, the lighter we walk the less connection we are choosing to make.

Middle Eastern traditions of washing ones feet

From creation through to the time of Abraham and in every generation, there has been a spiritual importance of cleansing and washing ones feet before prayer . In our generation especially in a "western cultured" society, the basic spiritual laws are forgotten and many peoples feet are in awful condition . Certainly NOT a "pretty" sight to look at, even worse for the odour !

The feet reflects the foundation of ones body and soul

and ones ability to connect both spiritually and physically to this earth.

Take a look at your feet - what condition are they in ?

The remedy is simple, wash them at least TWICE a day in the morning and evening . If one has dry skin, then use natural cocoa butter to rub into your feet . Give your feet fresh air - never wear socks in bed ( unless you're in really freezing conditions in the north pole or camping in Siberia ! ) .

Make sure that you always have the most comfortable pair of shoes. Never wear a pair of shoes because they "look good" to others, but hurt ones feet ! Such a silly attitude - reflects ones character .

"CLOSURE" in order to not allow any spiritual energy to be drained from ones feet, simply keep ones feet washed, cleansed and covered, wear shoes with a solid and firm soul, and think on the way one walks and is connecting ones feet to the ground and "mother earth".

There is a spiritual "cleansing " to help people connect their physical body to their spiritual soul and to earth and the place where one is living and that is to JUMP up and down, with all ones weight. Or even if one is sitting to stamp ones feet on the ground ! The feet is the furthest part of ones body from ones head, which containes ones thoughts from ones soul, and yet by connecting these two extreme parts of our body helps one to find wholesomeness and continuous connection between the physical and spiritual worlds.

Summary table

The 7 purely spiritual points in our body

These points have no physical "opening" points, but they are centres and sources of physical and spiritual energy. These are the points of significant activity, which connects our physical body and spiritual soul . (Known amongst "non jewish " literature as chakras energy points)

1. The Crown On Top of Ones Head 2. The 3rd Eye - The Spiritual Eye 3. The Voice Box in ones Throat 4. The Heart 5. The Solar Plexus - the area just behind the belley button in the centre of ones digestive stomach. 6. The Root - Base of the Spine 7. The Sexual Organ

We explain these points fully on the page of "Spiritual Protection", we shall briefly explain how to have "closure" and be "open" spiritually at these sensitive points in the table below, and explain "closure" of the Spiritual 3rd Eye.

The 3rd Eye - The Spiritual Eye

Please read our webpage we called Space Cleansing and Clearing - "Feng Shui" , and the page "Rescue work" which explains how the Spiritual 3rd eye senses, receives and emits SPIRITUAL energy.

The concept of the Spiritual 3rd eye .

Images of our THIRD eye appear everywhere, even on a keyring ! The Spiritual 3rd Eye is actually positioned between ones physical eyes and slightly above the eyebrows in the centre.

Even on a one dollar bill from the USA - a "3rd eye" on top of the pyramid,

whilst there is a star of David on the other side ontop of the eagle, interesting?

THE THIRD EYE

Your eyes are the windows of your soul, whatever you see through your physical eyes makes an impression upon you, it affects your judgement and probably all your decisions are made on the basis of what you see .

As i explained in the article on re-incarnation from Reb Chaim Vital that our soul transcends into our physical body at various stages of our life . Once we have arrived at the level where our Third Eye is opened, although we may not see anything physically , we nontheless are SEEING things spiritually . The 3rd eye is known according to kabbala to be in between ones normal eyes , as the picture above .

Your Physical eyes see but your 3rd eye senses spirit and all the spiritual energy

Ever had the feeling when you look at something, it feels great or appauling, these senses are from your spiritual 3rd eye on a spiritual level. Hence, being careful what you are facing and looking at is exceedingly important, as your spiritual soul is looking through your third eye . That is why in Jewish law (and in many religions such as muslem according to the Koran) it is forbidden to read any holy books in a place where obscenities and filth can be seen, even if you turn your eyes away - this does not help, as your THIRD EYE sees and senses everything .

ALWAYS BE AWARE THAT YOUR THIRD EYE SEES AND SENSE EVERYTHING ....

Closure and Protection of ones Spiritual 3rd Eye

To have Spiritual "Closure" of ones 3rd Eye, simply place ones hand over the place of the Spiritual 3rd eye, focus ones thoughts in prayer to ask for the 3rd eye to be closed and protected especially from earthbound spirit souls, other peoples negative thoughts and destructive energies. Refusing in ones mind and thoughts, to allow any energy to be taken from ones soul through the 3rd eye. It is well known that many spiritually senstive Rabbis when in public, need to protect their 3rd eye, as in the Photo above of the famous Bobover Rebbe.

4. Learning to coordinate and "THINK" specific thoughts of "closure" in ones mind, simultaneously to making the physical gestures of "closure".

Simultaneously to making the physical movements to have "closure" one needs to focus ones thoughts to have a mental "closure" on the situation. This is simply done with 3 thoughts, assess and accept that the situation is no longer acceptable, verbalise a desire to have "closure" and "detach" oneself emotionally.

(a) Assess honestly the situation, and DECIDE that the situation is UNACCEPTABLE and now has become unneccessary to remain in ones life. This decision must be taken honestly to ascertain the fact with the underlining questions :- "DO I NEED THIS SITUATION FOR THE SPIRITUAL GROWTH AND DEVELOPEMENT OF MY SOUL?" - "NO" - "THEREFORE I AM NOW LETTING GO", and say to oneself "I release the need for this situation to be in my life, it is draining me spiritually and therefore abusing my soul, i am now having closure on this situation"

Be focused in ones mind that this "draining" situation is no longer needed in ones life, as one has changed, learnt the lessons. This situation was part of ones past and not going to be part of ones future.

(b) Verbalise:- once a situation has become "unacceptable" and one needs "closure" use the power of speech to admit honestly that one no longer wants this situation in ones life. By verbalising and praying that there is no longer a need for this "draining" situation, one is affirming that one is starting the process of "releasing" any connections.

Affirmations such as "I am ready to walk away and let go of anything to do with this draining situation", "being connected to this situation is dangerous for my soul, i am wishing to save my life and soul by detaching myself from this abusive situation" , "i am being as closed as possible physically and spiritually to this draining person or situation", " this situation has nothing to do with me ", "this situation is not my destiny, my soul does not belong here ", etc., within a short time of affirming, ones soul starts to let go of all the energy of attachment, and as doors close other doors open.

Therefore, when one prays and say " i want closure from this draining situation, which is wrong for my soul" and one says this with a clenched closed fist and closed eyes, one will find a tremendously good energy in successfully having "closure".

Often, when a person is in the "wrong" situation for their soul, one feels agitated that one has no personal power or control over ones life. This is because there is an overlapping and attachment one has made to "connect" unnecessarily to other people. The easiest way to STOP this connection is to learn "closure".

Affirm to oneself - "I no longer wish to connect with other peoples lives who have nothing to do with me, i am therefore no longer going to interfere with their lives or destiny, therefore they have no right or permission to interfere with my life and destiny".

When a person realises that one is really in control, and by having closure and REFUSING TO INTERFERE and GET INVOLVED with other peoples lives, this will STOP them from interfering and getting involved with ones life. The loss of ones souls energy to other people by "transference",automatically stops and one has managed to unblock ones destiny by "closure".

Remember, that if someone is interfering unnecessarily in your life, this is a sign that you are interfering in someone elses life unnecessarily, learn "closure" by detaching oneself from other people, refuse to "get involved", take the "i dont care attitude" , "its nothing to do with me, my life and my destiny" and automatically these unnecessary irritable events and people dissappear "magically" from ones life. They simply stop bothering you as you have succeeded to develope your spirituality and changed !

(c) Learn to detach oneself mentally and emotionally from the draining and unacceptable situation, learn to take the "i don't care" attitude, learn forgiveness and "let go" which helps to sever all links. If one retains any kind of emotion, especially hate, jealousy and any negative emotions, these feelings CONNECT and BIND a person to the situation even stronger.

Many people make a mistake in "running away" from difficult situations, in an escape of avoidance to "confront and deal with" the underlying spiritual lessons and problems the situation has presented t ones soul. These people will probably continue such a pattern in life, until the STOP running away and deal with the emotional issues in their mind and soul. Once one clears the negative emotions and detaches ones mind and thoughts completely from the abusively draining situation or person, one will feel enlightened in ones soul and free to live with any negative emotions.

Learn to detach oneself by taking the "i dont care" attitude, wishing the other people one is trying to detach from all the good luck in the world, but desiring not to "get involved" in their lives no longer, this means a person needs to develope the "closure" and a sense of "no emotions" at all towards the person or situation.

In our generation many divorced people wonder why they cannot find love after having a failed relationship, that is because they have not "divorced" themselves emotionally in their mind, they still hold hatred, bitterness and resentment towards their ex -lovers, ex -husband/wife.

It is always wise to take the "i dont care whatever happens to them!" - attitude of mind, accepting the failed and wrongful relationship was simply not ones destiny. If one does not "let go" emotionally one becomes rigid, cold, unloving, very bitter and hateful in life, closing any emotions of LOVE. If one closes emotions of LOVE, then one is detaching oneself from the creative life energy of this world GOD whom is LOVE.

This principle applies to everyone whom is seeking a loving life, as one cannot be a spiritual person with a creative life energy of LOVE and attached to GOD, if one has any hatred emotions, hatred is indeed DEATH . So learn to be loving and compassionate and ones life will be full of love and peace of mind.

The Secret "Key" to Succeed in "Closure"

After learning about "Destiny" and loss by "transference", one then gets a firm belief and understanding that one has ones own life and destiny to fulfill, instead of being "carried along" like sheep in a flock, with "other peoples" lives. Most people only "wake-up" to this fact during the midlifecrisis, when they honestly analyse "where did they go wrong?", "what signs in their life did they not listen to?" and "how can they get themselves on their true life destined pathway?".

Once a person understands 100% that it is wrong to interact or take someone elses life and destiny, then one becomes more committed to finding ones own purpose and destiny in life. The secret "key" to succeed in gaining "closure" is simply to acknowledge to GOD and Spirit world HONESTLY, that one is no longer wishing to live "someone" elses life. Then automatically, the doorway of knowledge is opened, spiritual guidance is given and "magically" Divine coincedences open closed doors, once and only once a person has had "closure" on the wrongful past !

5. The Final Act of "closure" as taught from King Solomon in Proverbs.

As we explained in the page Loss by "Transference" everyone is interacting and continually exchanging and creating energy through the connections with other people. With good people we associate with, we create a life energy through love and compassion, through the "negative" connections our souls feel drained.

Whenever two people interact, they exchange energy, in every transaction their is an agreed transfer of energy. The reason why thought energy of "Transference" is not a valid transaction is that one side can cancel out the energy ny cancelling out the thought energy that occured in the past.

There is a specific transaction that also connects people spiritually and that is in a "gift". Where one person gives a physical object and the recipient is giving nothing physical in return at that moment. This is either for 2 reasons, the gift is a "thank you" gift for something that has happend in the past, and the giver felt obliged to give a gift out of appreciation and wishing to cancel out any "debt" of energy. Or a person is giving a gift for a future favour they are planning to make. In either case, the energy of the gift either connects these two people for the future or disconnects from the past.

"שונא מתנות יחיה" - "One of hates gifts - will live"

Proverbs Chapter 15 verse 27

The reason King Solomon made this spiritual statement is to WARN everyone to be careful with whom they have connections, and to be very cautious in accepting gifts. Especially if they dont know what is going to be requested of them in the future, in accepting a gift now in return for a favour that will be hard to refuse in the future.

The Secret "Key" to Succeed in

a Final Act of "Closure"

Sefer Shinuyim - The book of Changes teaches that when a person wants to finalise a divorce or conclude a transaction of any kind, or a disconnection of any kind, as a final act - a payment of money or a physical object is given.

"Paying to disconnect and get someone out of your life"

In connecting / disconnecting with someone by a present, this must be a present that they will definately want, as they must become immediately attached and not throw the gift away. Therefore a present of money is the best gift to enable a disconnection and closure, as every materialistic non-spiritual person loves money - cash. If the giver has thoughts that they are giving the money to the person in order to DISCONNECT completely from them, then they will actually succeed in "CLOSURE" completely.

This is provided the person does not return the gift or money, but as we know most selfish or greedy materialistic people will never return money !

This is very significant in the act of "divorce" that the man gives the woman money to get her out of his life, if the man resents giving money or if the woman has been manipulatively deceitful in the divorce, then this "disconnection" money will act to keep them "connected", until they learn spiritually to "let go" and have "closure".

Similarly if a person has given "presents" to boyfriend/girlfriend, this energy of the "presents" will keep them connected, so in order to "move on" and have "closure" - give the presents back, return the energy or throw the gifts away.

Even if they move onto new relationships, so long as they have "money" that connects their past relationship then this energy will connect the recipient to the old relationship. Full and final "closure" means complete disconnection with a gift of money with the spiritual thoughts of final "closure" ALWAYS works in accordance with the spiritual laws of transference of energy.

Pray for their soul - The highest form of "disconnection"and forgiveness.

A higher level of "closure" and disconnection as we shall teach on the page of Life of Compassion is to pray for those people who have done one "injustice, damage and hurt", by praying sincerely for their soul, that they should find a spiritually loving pathway in life, instead of having a selfish destructive life, which is only causing hurt to others and to their own soul, is actually GIVING them the best gift of all. This prayer of compassion together with forgiveness for the hurt and damage of the past, helps ones soul to be disengaged from any unnecessary draining attachment to their soul.

When all the doors of the past are closed then...

The Doorway of Enlightement Opens

For a Loving and Compassionate Spiritual Life.

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Jewish Reference Books

Sefer HaNefesh by Reb Shem Tov Ben Yosef Falaq'ira

The specific knowledge on this page with respect to the "senses" and closure has been taken from the famous 13th century book Sefer HaNefesh - ספר הנפש - a Kabbala book by Reb Shem Tov Ibn Yosef Falaq'ira.

Sefer HaNefesh - ספר הנפש is a book by Reb Shem Tov Ibn Yosef Falaq'ira ( lived in the area of French Spanish border in 13th century, please see here for full history and explanation of alll his writings in English ) . One of the most profilic Sefardic spiritual writers, see here for more of his seforim available online . The book explains clearly the relationship between the soul, the levels of energy within the soul , and the direct relationship with every part of our body . Especially focusing on the bodily senses of sight, sound, touch, taste, smell and how these directly affect the level of soul known as "Nefesh" . The book continues to explain the level of "RUACH" - "the breathe of life" - spirit through the power of speech, relating the power of speech and physical bodily senses together to bring healing to the SOUL .

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